Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Why It's Time To Quit Your Job

Take this job and shove it.
Are you starting to feel like a commodity rather than a person? Are you getting the impression that although your employer demands your loyalty and professionalism at all times there seems to be a double standard? Do you live in constant anxiety because you aren’t sure if your job is secure? Does your professional life feel like you’re playing a losing game on an unfair playing field?
You are not alone. There seems to be growing animosity between those perceived 1 per centers and good old Average Joe. In a culture focused on monetary reward as the ultimate bottom line, Mr. and Mrs. 1 Percent have utilized a variety of savvy methods that have reduced reliance on poor Joe– who is now scrambling  just to stay in the game.
Annie Lowrey reported the following in in a post from The New York Times Economix blog.
The top 1 percent took more than one-fifth of the income earned by Americans, one of the highest levels on record since 1913, when the government instituted an income tax.
The figures underscore that even after the recession the country remains in a new Gilded Age, with income as concentrated as it was in the years that preceded the Depression of the 1930s, if not more so.
So we get it right? There is a feeling of “us and them”. Some of us are mad about it and rebel. We buy t-shirts that advocate island living and complete personal freedom… (yeah… a Jimmy Buffet life sounds good to me too sometimes.) On the other extreme, some of us do everything we can to climb the ladder that promises such grand financial reward. We become willing participants in our own demise. We sacrifice our families, our values, our time, and our authentic self in the pursuit of a happiness that seems forever out of reach.
If you have a job shouldn’t you be petrified to leave it given the current level of economic uncertainty? Isn’t it better to be miserable with a pay check? Isn’t all this business about a happy employment situation just for unrealistic new grads?

Thursday, September 12, 2013

The Doors that Close

You tried your best, you worked hard, you put it on your vision board, you meditated about it, you prayed for it…and despite your good intention and herculean efforts it’s a big fat fail. There are few things as frustrating as the realization that  despite our best efforts the universe just refuses to cooperate. I know I’ve felt that way.
Not fair right? The rule is that with enough hard work, dedication and practice we are supposed to be able to do anything we want to! We are the one in a million! We are the odds defying statistical outlier…and dammit…movies should be written about our tragic yet inspirational stories. Yes. We are believers. We believe with our whole hearts.
So what the heck man? Why is it not working out? How did we get fired? How are we broke and about to close the business? How did our relationship break up? How did we NOT get accepted to the grad program we know we were just destined for? How did we get rejected from the path we know is ours? How is this so PAINFUL!?

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

What You Were Meant to Do



Last night I was helping my handsome husband put together a presentation for a group of talented young student leaders from a visiting high school. His topic was happiness. His thesis (by the time we had started into brainstorming together) was,
“Happiness is a practice”happy green girl
Happiness is more than a feeling. It’s more than something that happens to us after we experience a personal win or a pleasurable moment. It is something we actively participate in creating. Further, the opportunity to create and support a happy life is available to us in every moment of every day.
For more info on this topic take a wander over to a previous post on this blog, “How to Get Happy” and spend a few minutes checking out the video there.
Here is another little pearl I’ve come across as a vocational counselor that could tie directly back to your perceived level of happiness…

Friday, March 15, 2013

Shut Up!!!


Why are we so afraid of silence? What compels us to fill space with activity, or sounds, or vocal and behavioral tics that clearly demonstrate our discomfort and inability to communicate? (think long drawn out vowels, shifting feet on the floor, hands jammed into pockets, noncommittal nodding of the head, nervous laughter and strained facial expressions)
Are we afraid of revealing ourselves? Is it an attempt to shield ourselves from embarrassment?
Have you ever tossed the conversational ball and had the other drop it? If you've ever tried to have a pleasant talk with someone who is not interested in chatting it up, you know this can be an awkward moment. Your olive branch goes like this,

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Where in the World is Kathleen (Paco) Cadman? Creating Awesome in 100 Countries.


Kathleen Cadman…the woman is an outlier. Really. In every sense.
When the Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera  craze struck full force in the late 90’s with bubblegum pop and school girl uniforms; she was a folk music listening, coffee house visiting flower child with homemade clothes and a VW bus. While everyone else was trying to land a job (any job!) after college, she moved to China to teach. When rock climbing came to the mainstream and rock walls sprouted up in colleges and high schools across the country, she was already doing it – naked – and bravely baring it all in the name of art and…doing something interesting.
Recently a picture of hers that was posted on Facebook caused me to pause and take notice. It was of a happy smiling Kathleen in some beautiful foreign land holding a sign with a smiley face. The sign read, “100th Country.”
100 Countries. Amazing. That got me to thinking. How does she do things like this? Why does she do things like this? How can other people do things like this too?

Monday, March 4, 2013

Lessons in Creating Awesome

Today I’m working on getting a “Passion Presentation” together for a conference I’ll be speaking at March 14th. The title of my presentation is “Passion: Leading Students Back into Themselves” and one of the big ideas I’m trying to convey is this:

In order for students to be successful today they must learn to engage their personal passions. By doing this, they stand out; they become a one of a kind original that can not be replaced and have a sense of what true authentic success means for them.

When only 25% of graduating students have jobs in hand at the time of graduation, we have to wonder what is happening to the other 75%.

In the global marketplace we live in today, graduating with a four year degree no longer guarantees the opportunity for a career. So what’s the difference maker?

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Tuesday, February 26, 2013

There Are No Realists


A blog post went up Monday on one of my very favorite blogs. David from Raptitude.com wrote an article titled, “When Things go Terribly Right” that generated quite a bit of interest and commentary on his site. It’s a great article and one that I recommend looking over. To read it yourself click here.
In the article he talks about shifting his perception and reallocating investment of time and thought energy. Instead of thinking about why things might not work out, or how he could fail, or what might go wrong, he decided to spend time looking forward to positive outcomes instead. Without naming “The Secret” he waded into that oh so tricky and oversimplified, “law of attraction” idea that new agers have embraced completely to the point of obnoxiousness.
If I hear one more time about how picturing myself wealthy will make me wealthy or that success is as easy as pinning a picture of something onto my vision board, I might have to hit my head repeatedly against the closest wall.
It’s not that I totally disagree with the premise. I do think people tend to draw to themselves the things they focus their energy on. I think that what bothers me is that the emphasis for so many people touting the idea is on external rewards and systems. How can you get rich? How can you get famous? How can you find love? Just imagine hard enough and it will come.
Somehow it just feels wrong to me. The focus has turned outward instead of inwardRead more....